When we're in one of our horrible slumps, my self esteem suffers. Like, takes a nosedive. I mean, if he doesn't want to have sex with me, he must find something about me repulsive. In order to put together my shattered self esteem, I start to become more receptive to other guys at a superficial level because I like the flirting and the feedback.
I dress better even when doing mundane errands, wearing heels, makeup, perfume. I also dress more body consciously (I worked hard to keep a really slim figure). I haven't been a big wedding ring wearer since I had kids (due to not wanting the diamonds to scratch them as infants, then just fell out of the habit altogether), but now sometimes I consciously don't put it on. I enjoy men going out of their way to talk to me or open the door and smile. I've had some pretty obvious flirtation from guys even wearing my ring - they just don't seem to care. I notice the men around me. Sometimes I feel like a pent up teenager, all of that excess sexual frustration in my body.
I can't help it - I like it. I seek it out during certain female days of the month (fertile time) when my hormones are going crazy. Sometimes I even jokingly tell my hubby about it.
I've never crossed the physical cheating line. The attention seems to do its trick, and I lick my wounds, happier that I still 'got it'.
Is this just a female thing or do guys do it too?